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Back in My Parents’ F-ing Basement – Live in MN w/Kjell Bjorgen

Recorded live in Minneapolis at Sisyphus Brewing, Paul and Kjell reunite and share stories of bombing onstage, panic attacks, depression, meds, feeling lazy, future tripping, anger at partners, living in parents’ basements, self-doubt, dead-end jobs and self-sabotage.

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

past guests include people like people like Tiffany Haddish, Maria Bamford, Paul F. Tompkins, Jen Kirkman, NHL Legend Theo Fleury, Dr. Elyn Saks, Neal Brennan, Janet Varney,  Marc Maron, Ashly Burch, Chris Gethard, Christina Pazsitzky, Aparna Nancherla, Eddie Pepitone, Shane Mauss, Karen Kilgariff, Clint Malarchuk, Caitlin Doughty, Dave Anthony, Andy Kindler, Aisha Tyler, TEDTalker Susan David, Anchorman Dan Harris, Jimmy Dore, Anna Akana, Dr. Guy Winch, Andy Richter, Jesse Thorne, Michaela Watkins, Adam Carolla, Dr. Jonice Webb, Paul Rust, Doug Benson, Melissa Broder (@SoSadToday), Rob Delaney, Pro Basketball player Royce White, Jimmy Pardo, Todd Glass, Nikki Glaser, Emily Gordon, Kathryn Hahn, Cameron Esposito and many others.

 

More About Our Guest

visit Kjell at www.Facebook.com/kjell.bjorgen 

 

Support Our Sponsors!

 

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18.

 

This episode is sponsored by PolicyGenius.com  To find a policy and company that is right for you go to www.PolicyGenius.com  

 

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-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Back in My Parents’ F-ing Basement – Live in MN w/Kjell Bjorgen

Recorded live in Minneapolis at Sisyphus Brewing, Paul and Kjell reunite and share stories of bombing onstage, panic attacks, depression, meds, feeling lazy, future tripping, anger at partners, living in parents’ basements, self-doubt, dead-end jobs and self-sabotage.

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

past guests include people like people like Tiffany Haddish, Maria Bamford, Paul F. Tompkins, Jen Kirkman, NHL Legend Theo Fleury, Dr. Elyn Saks, Neal Brennan, Janet Varney,  Marc Maron, Ashly Burch, Chris Gethard, Christina Pazsitzky, Aparna Nancherla, Eddie Pepitone, Shane Mauss, Karen Kilgariff, Clint Malarchuk, Caitlin Doughty, Dave Anthony, Andy Kindler, Aisha Tyler, TEDTalker Susan David, Anchorman Dan Harris, Jimmy Dore, Anna Akana, Dr. Guy Winch, Andy Richter, Jesse Thorne, Michaela Watkins, Adam Carolla, Dr. Jonice Webb, Paul Rust, Doug Benson, Melissa Broder (@SoSadToday), Rob Delaney, Pro Basketball player Royce White, Jimmy Pardo, Todd Glass, Nikki Glaser, Emily Gordon, Kathryn Hahn, Cameron Esposito and many others.

 

More About Our Guest

visit Kjell at www.Facebook.com/kjell.bjorgen 

 

Support Our Sponsors!

 

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18.

 

This episode is sponsored by PolicyGenius.com  To find a policy and company that is right for you go to www.PolicyGenius.com  

 

Other Links Mentioned

 

 WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST

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Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

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Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

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Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

Become a one-time or monthly donor via Paypal  or Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com)

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Cartoons & Murder – Tonya McKenzie

One of her first memories is seeing her mother’s boyfriend shot dead in front of her at four years-old. The mother she adored was fiercely protective of her except when it interfered with her dangerous lifestyle. A great chat about mental health – especially among POC -, complicated relationships with mothers, the cycles of generational dysfunction and trauma in the black community and the challenges raising her teenage son in a mostly white community.

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

 

More About Our Guest

Website: http://tonyamckenzie.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/PRBizMom

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tonyamckenziespeaks/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyamckenzie/

 

Support Our Sponsors!

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18.

This episode is sponsored by Mrs. Fields. For 20% off go to www.mrsfields.com And enter promo code mental

This episode is sponsored by the Calm app.  For 25% off the Calm premium subscription go to www.calm.com/Mental   

WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST

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Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

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Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

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Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

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Cartoons & Murder – Tonya McKenzie

One of her first memories is seeing her mother’s boyfriend shot dead in front of her at four years-old. The mother she adored was fiercely protective of her except when it interfered with her dangerous lifestyle. A great chat about mental health – especially among POC -, complicated relationships with mothers, the cycles of generational dysfunction and trauma in the black community and the challenges raising her teenage son in a mostly white community.

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

 

More About Our Guest

Website: http://tonyamckenzie.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/PRBizMom

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tonyamckenziespeaks/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyamckenzie/

 

Support Our Sponsors!

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18.

This episode is sponsored by Mrs. Fields. For 20% off go to www.mrsfields.com And enter promo code mental

This episode is sponsored by the Calm app.  For 25% off the Calm premium subscription go to www.calm.com/Mental   

WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST

______________________

Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

—————————————————————————

Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

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Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

Become a one-time or monthly donor via Paypal  or Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com)

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LeeAnn Kreischer – Rural Southern Generational Trauma

The wife of comedian Bert Kreischer shares about her relationship with her “party-animal” husband, and her tumultuous childhood split between a mentally-ill narcissistic mother, a lovesick broken father, and a grandfather with severe combat PTSD from being the one of the first soldiers to enter Nagasaki after the atomic bomb detonated. She describes how she faced her pain, changed her life and grew.  

 

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod   Hear guests like: Tiffany Haddish, Marc Maron, Maria Bamford, Melissa Villasenor, NHL Legend Theo Fleury, Aisha Tyler, Scott Thompson, Kathryn Hahn, Nikki Glaser, Rob Delaney, Paul F. Tompkins and bestselling authors like Dr. Elyn Saks, and Caitlin Doughty.

 

More About Our Guest

To find all of her social media handles or to learn more about LeeAnn or her podcast The Wife of The Party, go to www.WifeOTP.com

 

Support Our Sponsors!

 

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18.

The BH policy and terminology updates are explained in this article by the founder of BH 

Other Links Mentioned

For questions about any of the book titles she mentioned contact her thru her website at www.wifeotp.com  or dm her on twitter.

 

Ways to Help the Podcast

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Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

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Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

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Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

——————————————————–

Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

Become a one-time or monthly donor via Paypal  or Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com)

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LeeAnn Kreischer – Rural Southern Generational Trauma

The wife of comedian Bert Kreischer shares about her relationship with her “party-animal” husband, and her tumultuous childhood split between a mentally-ill narcissistic mother, a lovesick broken father, and a grandfather with severe combat PTSD from being the one of the first soldiers to enter Nagasaki after the atomic bomb detonated. She describes how she faced her pain, changed her life and grew.  

 

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod   Hear guests like: Tiffany Haddish, Marc Maron, Maria Bamford, Melissa Villasenor, NHL Legend Theo Fleury, Aisha Tyler, Scott Thompson, Kathryn Hahn, Nikki Glaser, Rob Delaney, Paul F. Tompkins and bestselling authors like Dr. Elyn Saks, and Caitlin Doughty.

 

More About Our Guest

To find all of her social media handles or to learn more about LeeAnn or her podcast The Wife of The Party, go to www.WifeOTP.com

 

Support Our Sponsors!

 

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18.

The BH policy and terminology updates are explained in this article by the founder of BH 

Other Links Mentioned

For questions about any of the book titles she mentioned contact her thru her website at www.wifeotp.com  or dm her on twitter.

 

Ways to Help the Podcast

______________________

Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

—————————————————————————

Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

————————————————————–

Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

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FOMO, Shame & People Pleasing – Mary Holland

The improviser/actor (UCB’s Wild Horses) opens up about her struggles with feeling like a fraud, people pleasing, shame, FOMO, feeling undeserving or that her authentic self is just too much for people.

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod   Hear guests like: Tiffany Haddish, Marc Maron, Maria Bamford, Melissa Villasenor, NHL Legend Theo Fleury, Aisha Tyler, Scott Thompson, Kathryn Hahn, Nikki Glaser, Rob Delaney, Paul F. Tompkins and bestselling authors like Dr. Elyn Saks, and Caitlin Doughty.

 

More About Our Guest

follow Mary on Twitter @MHolland85

Support Our Sponsors!

This episode is supported by the podcast Headlong: Surviving Y2K  Find it where you listen to all of your podcasts.

This episode is sponsored by BeFrugal. For a $10 bonus go to http://www.BeFrugal.com/mental and sign up for free.

Ways to Help the Podcast

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Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

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Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

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Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

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Conflict Photographer Lynsey Addario on Art, Love, and War

Conflict Photographer Lynsey Addario on Art, Love, and War

  • a story of survival that leaves our host speechless
  • and a story of casual cruelty that will leave you shaking your head in disbelief

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Think about all the images you see in a day. The advertisements. The photos and videos as you search the web or scroll through social media, if you do that. Now think back a century and a half or so to when photography was new. Imagine the first time a British monarch saw a picture of an Inuit family, or vice versa. What did they make of each other? What did it remake in themselves?

My guest today, photographer Lynsey Addario, has spent over two decades traveling the world taking intimate and dramatic portraits, often of lives in crisis—the perpetrators and victims of tyranny, revolution, famine, and rape. Her work spans over 70 countries and has won her a MacArthur Fellowship and a Pulitzer Prize, but has never been gathered into a book until now. Of Love and War gives her most compelling photos the space they deserve, along with essays, interview excerpts, and letters she wrote home to process the things she was witnessing.

Lynsey’s pictures offer people like myself, living out our lives in privileged circumstances, a window into the beauty, suffering, and everyday humanity of our contemporaries across the world. And like it or not, ready or not, when you stop scrolling long enough look into one of these images, it looks back into you.

Surprise conversation starter interview clips in this episode:

Bruce Feiler on happy families

Conflict Photographer Lynsey Addario on Art, Love, and War

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Conflict Photographer Lynsey Addario on Art, Love, and War

Conflict Photographer Lynsey Addario on Art, Love, and War

  • a story of survival that leaves our host speechless
  • and a story of casual cruelty that will leave you shaking your head in disbelief

None

Think about all the images you see in a day. The advertisements. The photos and videos as you search the web or scroll through social media, if you do that. Now think back a century and a half or so to when photography was new. Imagine the first time a British monarch saw a picture of an Inuit family, or vice versa. What did they make of each other? What did it remake in themselves?

My guest today, photographer Lynsey Addario, has spent over two decades traveling the world taking intimate and dramatic portraits, often of lives in crisis—the perpetrators and victims of tyranny, revolution, famine, and rape. Her work spans over 70 countries and has won her a MacArthur Fellowship and a Pulitzer Prize, but has never been gathered into a book until now. Of Love and War gives her most compelling photos the space they deserve, along with essays, interview excerpts, and letters she wrote home to process the things she was witnessing.

Lynsey’s pictures offer people like myself, living out our lives in privileged circumstances, a window into the beauty, suffering, and everyday humanity of our contemporaries across the world. And like it or not, ready or not, when you stop scrolling long enough look into one of these images, it looks back into you.

Surprise conversation starter interview clips in this episode:

Bruce Feiler on happy families

Conflict Photographer Lynsey Addario on Art, Love, and War

Learn

Chris Mancini – A Buffet of Anxiety

The filmmaker (Earbuds) podcaster (Comedy Film Nerds and Conversations From the Abyss) writer (Pacified: A Handbook For the New Freaked-Out Dad) and comedian sits down to talk about anxiety, depression, parental stress/anxiety and feeling career disappointment/frustration/doubt.  He also talks about the Earbuds documentary and the importance of human connection not only in dealing with mental struggles but between podcasts and listeners.

 

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod   Hear guests like: Tiffany Haddish, Marc Maron, Maria Bamford, Melissa Villasenor, NHL Legend Theo Fleury, Aisha Tyler, Scott Thompson, Kathryn Hahn, Nikki Glaser, Rob Delaney, Paul F. Tompkins and bestselling authors like Dr. Elyn Saks, and Caitlin Doughty.

 

More About Our Guest

chrisjmancinionline.com

Twitter: @chrisjmancini 

Comedyfilmnerds.com to purchase Ear Buds or the graphic novel

Purchase Ear Buds on Itunes at https://itunes.apple.com/us/movie/ear-buds-the-podcasting-documentary/id1268255846

 

Support Our Sponsors!

This episode is sponsored by Roman.  For a free online visit go to www.GetRoman.com/mental  

This episode is sponsored by the Calm sleep/meditation app.  For a limited time get 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription at www.Calm.com/mental

 

Ways to Help the Podcast

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Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

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Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

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Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

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Chris Mancini – A Buffet of Anxiety

The filmmaker (Earbuds) podcaster (Comedy Film Nerds and Conversations From the Abyss) writer (Pacified: A Handbook For the New Freaked-Out Dad) and comedian sits down to talk about anxiety, depression, parental stress/anxiety and feeling career disappointment/frustration/doubt.  He also talks about the Earbuds documentary and the importance of human connection not only in dealing with mental struggles but between podcasts and listeners.

 

Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod   Hear guests like: Tiffany Haddish, Marc Maron, Maria Bamford, Melissa Villasenor, NHL Legend Theo Fleury, Aisha Tyler, Scott Thompson, Kathryn Hahn, Nikki Glaser, Rob Delaney, Paul F. Tompkins and bestselling authors like Dr. Elyn Saks, and Caitlin Doughty.

 

More About Our Guest

chrisjmancinionline.com

Twitter: @chrisjmancini 

Comedyfilmnerds.com to purchase Ear Buds or the graphic novel

Purchase Ear Buds on Itunes at https://itunes.apple.com/us/movie/ear-buds-the-podcasting-documentary/id1268255846

 

Support Our Sponsors!

This episode is sponsored by Roman.  For a free online visit go to www.GetRoman.com/mental  

This episode is sponsored by the Calm sleep/meditation app.  For a limited time get 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription at www.Calm.com/mental

 

Ways to Help the Podcast

______________________

Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

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Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod 

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Subscribe to Stitcher Premium for back catalog (& much more)

-Older episodes can be found ad-free exclusively at Stitcher Premium for $4.99/month.  Get one month free with offer code MENTAL at signup at www.StitcherPremium.com/mentalpod  

-Subscription includes all episodes, ad-free, going all the way back to ep #1 in 2011, plus back catalogs of tons of other great podcasts, standup albums, original content and more.

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Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod 

 

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introducing: Imagined Life

What is it like to be famous before you’re famous? What is it like to walk in the shoes of another person? Each episode of IMAGINED LIFE takes you on an immersive journey into the life of a world-famous person. It’ll be someone you may think you know, even admire — or maybe the opposite. You’ll get clues to your identity along the way. But only in the final moments will you find out who “you” really are. So sit back, let go, and — imagine your life. Subscribe today at wondery.fm/crews 

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Sofiya Alexandra – Mania, Communism, Surviving Cancer & #MeToo

The writer (Danger & Eggs) standup (Comedy Central: This is Not Happening) & podcaster (Reality Bytes) shares about her childhood under communism in the Ukraine, her battles with bipolar (loving the mania), surviving cancer and how to help or talk to someone with it and how all of us can help the #MeToo movement, especially powerful people who caused harm.

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How to Be a Good Creature: Naturalist Sy Montgomery on What 13 Animals Taught Her About Otherness, Love, and the Heart of Our Humanity

“Our world, and the worlds around and within it, is aflame with shades of brilliance we cannot fathom — and is far more vibrant, far more holy, than we could ever imagine.”


How to Be a Good Creature: Naturalist Sy Montgomery on What 13 Animals Taught Her About Otherness, Love, and the Heart of Our Humanity

“To be a good human being,” philosopher Martha Nussbaum observed, “is to have a kind of openness to the world, an ability to trust uncertain things beyond your own control” — to have, that is, a willingness to regard with an openhearted curiosity what is other than ourselves and therefore strange, discomfiting, difficult to fathom and relate to, difficult at first to love, for we cannot love what we do not understand. Out of such regard arises the awareness at the heart of Lucille Clifton’s lovely poem “cutting greens” — a recognition of “the bond of live things everywhere,” among which we are only a small part of a vast and miraculous world, and from which we can learn a great deal about being better versions of ourselves.

That is what naturalist and author Sy Montgomery, one of the most poetic science writers of our time, explores in How to Be a Good Creature: A Memoir in Thirteen Animals (public library), illustrated by artist Rebecca Green — an autobiographical adventure into the wilderness of our common humanity, where the world of science and the legacy of Aesop converge into an existential expedition to uncover the elemental truth that “knowing someone who belongs to another species can enlarge your soul in surprising ways.”

Looking back on her unusual and passionate life of swimming with electric eels, digging for mistletoe seeds in emu droppings, and communing with giant octopuses, Montgomery reflects on what she learned about leadership from an emu, about ferocity and forgiveness from an ermine, about living with a sense of wholeness despite imperfection from a one-eyed dog named Thurber (after the great New Yorker cartoonist and essayist James Thurber, who was blinded in one eye by an arrow as a child), and about what it takes for the heart to be “stretched wide with awe.”

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

Although Montgomery’s lifelong love of animals began with her childhood Scottish terrier, Molly, it took an uncommon turn in her mid-twenties, when she quit her job and moved halfway around the world to live in a tent in the Australian Outback. There, she had her first encounter with an animal so arresting as to be almost alien:

They were emus. Nearly six feet tall, typically seventy-five pounds, these flightless birds stand beside the kangaroo on Australia’s coat of arms as a symbol of this otherworldly continent at the bottom of the globe. Emus seem part bird and part mammal, with a little dinosaur thrown in. Shaggy, twin-shafted brown feathers hang from the rounded torso like hair. A long black neck periscopes up from the body, ending in a gooselike beak. The wings are mere stumps, and stick out from the body like comical afterthoughts. But on their strong, backwards-bending legs, emus can run forty miles an hour — and sever fencing wire, or break a neck, with a single kick.

At the sight of them, a shock leapt from the top of my head down my spine. I’d never been so close to this large a wild animal before — much less while alone, on a foreign continent. I was not so much afraid as I was dazzled. I froze, caught by their grace and power and strangeness, as they lifted their long, scaly legs and folded their huge dinosaurian toes, then set them down again. Balletically dipping their necks into an S-shape as they picked at the grass, they walked past me, and then over the ridge. Finally their haystack-like bodies blended into the brown, rounded forms of the wintering bushes, and were gone.

After they left, I felt a shift in my psyche. But I had no idea that I had just caught the first glimpse of a life farther off the beaten path than I had ever imagined. I could not have known it then, but these strange giant birds would grant me the destiny Molly had inspired, and they would repay me a millionfold for my first act of true bravery: leaving all that I loved behind.

This psychic shift effected a larger, deeper kind of bravery — that of looking at another creature, almost incomprehensibly different from us, and seeing it, without fear or bias or projection, for what it is: a glory of evolution, made singular and beautiful and lovable by the selfsame forces that made us.

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

This generous and largehearted way of seeing would come to mark Montgomery’s life, modeling for the rest of us how to regard otherness — even the starkest kind — in a way that elevates both us and it. She writes:

Only during my lifetime had scientists begun to acknowledge that chimpanzees, humankind’s closest relatives, are conscious beings. But what about creatures so different from us that you’d have to go to outer space, or into science fiction, to find anything so alien? What might I discover about the interior lives of these animals if I were to use, as a tool of inquiry, not only my intellect, but also my heart?

[…]

It’s true that it’s easy to project one’s own feelings onto another. We do this with our fellow humans all the time… A far worse mistake than misreading an animal’s emotions is to assume the animal hasn’t any emotions at all.

Montgomery brings these questions to New England Aquarium, where she gets to know one of Earth’s most alien creatures — the subject of her exquisite book The Soul of an Octopus. She writes:

Reading an octopus’s intentions is not like reading, for instance, a dog’s. I could read [my dog] Sally’s feelings in a glance, even if the only part of her I could see was her tail, or one ear. But Sally was family, and in more than one sense. Dogs, like all placental mammals, share 90 percent of our genetic material. Dogs evolved with humans. Octavia and I were separated by half a billion years of evolution. We were as different as land from sea. Was it even possible for a human to understand the emotions of a creature as different from us as an octopus?

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

As Octavia slowly allows this improbable and almost miraculous cross-species creaturely connection, Montgomery reflects on the insight attributed to the ancient Greek philosopher Thales of Miletus — “The universe is alive, and has fire in it, and is full of gods.” — and writes:

Being friends with an octopus — whatever that friendship meant to her — has shown me that our world, and the worlds around and within it, is aflame with shades of brilliance we cannot fathom — and is far more vibrant, far more holy, than we could ever imagine.

Perhaps holiness is nothing other than the capacity for finding loveliness in all things — something Montgomery learns in the heart of the South American jungle, in a surprising encounter with Earth’s largest tarantula.

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

Weighing half a pound, with a head the size of an apricot and legs that can cover your face, this “Goliath birdeater” named Clarabelle offers an unexpected lesson in tenderness — or, rather, in the openness of heart necessary for perceiving and receiving otherness. Montgomery recounts the revelatory experience:

She extended first one black hairy leg, then another, and another after another, until she was standing on my hand. The hooked tarsi at the tips of her feet felt vaguely prickly on my skin, like those of the Japanese beetles I have enjoyed holding since I was little. She stood for a moment while I admired her. She was a jet-haired beauty who looked like she had just had a fancy pedicure, the ends of her feet tipped in a bright, girly pink. For this reason, her species is known as the pinktoe tarantula. They’re exceptionally docile and seldom bite. Even their hairs are not usually irritating.

She began to walk. Slowly at first, stepping forward with her front legs, she crossed my right palm into my waiting left, just as my first dime-store turtle, Ms. Yellow Eyes, would do when I was a child. The tarantula probably weighed about as much as my turtle had.

And then something magical happened. Holding her in my hand, I could literally feel a connection with this creature. No longer did I see her as a really big spider; now I saw her as a small animal. Of course she was both. “Animals” include not only mammals but also birds and reptiles, amphibians and insects, fish and spiders, and many more. But perhaps because the tarantula was furry, like a chipmunk, and big enough to handle, now I saw her and her spider kin in a new light. She was a unique individual, and in my hand, she was in my care. A wave of tenderness swept over me as I watched her walk, softly, slowly, and deliberately, across my skin.

[…]

The world, I realized, brimmed even fuller with life than I had suspected, rich with the souls of tiny creatures who may love their lives as much as we love ours.

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

Complement How to Be a Good Creature with Helen MacDonald on what a hawk taught her about love and loss and Pattyann Rogers’s splendid ode to tiny creatures, then revisit Rachel Carson’s lyrical and revolutionary 1937 masterpiece, which humans for the first time to explore this shared planet from the perspective of nonhuman creatures.


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How to Be a Good Creature: Naturalist Sy Montgomery on What 13 Animals Taught Her About Otherness, Love, and the Heart of Our Humanity

“Our world, and the worlds around and within it, is aflame with shades of brilliance we cannot fathom — and is far more vibrant, far more holy, than we could ever imagine.”


How to Be a Good Creature: Naturalist Sy Montgomery on What 13 Animals Taught Her About Otherness, Love, and the Heart of Our Humanity

“To be a good human being,” philosopher Martha Nussbaum observed, “is to have a kind of openness to the world, an ability to trust uncertain things beyond your own control” — to have, that is, a willingness to regard with an openhearted curiosity what is other than ourselves and therefore strange, discomfiting, difficult to fathom and relate to, difficult at first to love, for we cannot love what we do not understand. Out of such regard arises the awareness at the heart of Lucille Clifton’s lovely poem “cutting greens” — a recognition of “the bond of live things everywhere,” among which we are only a small part of a vast and miraculous world, and from which we can learn a great deal about being better versions of ourselves.

That is what naturalist and author Sy Montgomery, one of the most poetic science writers of our time, explores in How to Be a Good Creature: A Memoir in Thirteen Animals (public library), illustrated by artist Rebecca Green — an autobiographical adventure into the wilderness of our common humanity, where the world of science and the legacy of Aesop converge into an existential expedition to uncover the elemental truth that “knowing someone who belongs to another species can enlarge your soul in surprising ways.”

Looking back on her unusual and passionate life of swimming with electric eels, digging for mistletoe seeds in emu droppings, and communing with giant octopuses, Montgomery reflects on what she learned about leadership from an emu, about ferocity and forgiveness from an ermine, about living with a sense of wholeness despite imperfection from a one-eyed dog named Thurber (after the great New Yorker cartoonist and essayist James Thurber, who was blinded in one eye by an arrow as a child), and about what it takes for the heart to be “stretched wide with awe.”

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

Although Montgomery’s lifelong love of animals began with her childhood Scottish terrier, Molly, it took an uncommon turn in her mid-twenties, when she quit her job and moved halfway around the world to live in a tent in the Australian Outback. There, she had her first encounter with an animal so arresting as to be almost alien:

They were emus. Nearly six feet tall, typically seventy-five pounds, these flightless birds stand beside the kangaroo on Australia’s coat of arms as a symbol of this otherworldly continent at the bottom of the globe. Emus seem part bird and part mammal, with a little dinosaur thrown in. Shaggy, twin-shafted brown feathers hang from the rounded torso like hair. A long black neck periscopes up from the body, ending in a gooselike beak. The wings are mere stumps, and stick out from the body like comical afterthoughts. But on their strong, backwards-bending legs, emus can run forty miles an hour — and sever fencing wire, or break a neck, with a single kick.

At the sight of them, a shock leapt from the top of my head down my spine. I’d never been so close to this large a wild animal before — much less while alone, on a foreign continent. I was not so much afraid as I was dazzled. I froze, caught by their grace and power and strangeness, as they lifted their long, scaly legs and folded their huge dinosaurian toes, then set them down again. Balletically dipping their necks into an S-shape as they picked at the grass, they walked past me, and then over the ridge. Finally their haystack-like bodies blended into the brown, rounded forms of the wintering bushes, and were gone.

After they left, I felt a shift in my psyche. But I had no idea that I had just caught the first glimpse of a life farther off the beaten path than I had ever imagined. I could not have known it then, but these strange giant birds would grant me the destiny Molly had inspired, and they would repay me a millionfold for my first act of true bravery: leaving all that I loved behind.

This psychic shift effected a larger, deeper kind of bravery — that of looking at another creature, almost incomprehensibly different from us, and seeing it, without fear or bias or projection, for what it is: a glory of evolution, made singular and beautiful and lovable by the selfsame forces that made us.

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

This generous and largehearted way of seeing would come to mark Montgomery’s life, modeling for the rest of us how to regard otherness — even the starkest kind — in a way that elevates both us and it. She writes:

Only during my lifetime had scientists begun to acknowledge that chimpanzees, humankind’s closest relatives, are conscious beings. But what about creatures so different from us that you’d have to go to outer space, or into science fiction, to find anything so alien? What might I discover about the interior lives of these animals if I were to use, as a tool of inquiry, not only my intellect, but also my heart?

[…]

It’s true that it’s easy to project one’s own feelings onto another. We do this with our fellow humans all the time… A far worse mistake than misreading an animal’s emotions is to assume the animal hasn’t any emotions at all.

Montgomery brings these questions to New England Aquarium, where she gets to know one of Earth’s most alien creatures — the subject of her exquisite book The Soul of an Octopus. She writes:

Reading an octopus’s intentions is not like reading, for instance, a dog’s. I could read [my dog] Sally’s feelings in a glance, even if the only part of her I could see was her tail, or one ear. But Sally was family, and in more than one sense. Dogs, like all placental mammals, share 90 percent of our genetic material. Dogs evolved with humans. Octavia and I were separated by half a billion years of evolution. We were as different as land from sea. Was it even possible for a human to understand the emotions of a creature as different from us as an octopus?

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

As Octavia slowly allows this improbable and almost miraculous cross-species creaturely connection, Montgomery reflects on the insight attributed to the ancient Greek philosopher Thales of Miletus — “The universe is alive, and has fire in it, and is full of gods.” — and writes:

Being friends with an octopus — whatever that friendship meant to her — has shown me that our world, and the worlds around and within it, is aflame with shades of brilliance we cannot fathom — and is far more vibrant, far more holy, than we could ever imagine.

Perhaps holiness is nothing other than the capacity for finding loveliness in all things — something Montgomery learns in the heart of the South American jungle, in a surprising encounter with Earth’s largest tarantula.

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

Weighing half a pound, with a head the size of an apricot and legs that can cover your face, this “Goliath birdeater” named Clarabelle offers an unexpected lesson in tenderness — or, rather, in the openness of heart necessary for perceiving and receiving otherness. Montgomery recounts the revelatory experience:

She extended first one black hairy leg, then another, and another after another, until she was standing on my hand. The hooked tarsi at the tips of her feet felt vaguely prickly on my skin, like those of the Japanese beetles I have enjoyed holding since I was little. She stood for a moment while I admired her. She was a jet-haired beauty who looked like she had just had a fancy pedicure, the ends of her feet tipped in a bright, girly pink. For this reason, her species is known as the pinktoe tarantula. They’re exceptionally docile and seldom bite. Even their hairs are not usually irritating.

She began to walk. Slowly at first, stepping forward with her front legs, she crossed my right palm into my waiting left, just as my first dime-store turtle, Ms. Yellow Eyes, would do when I was a child. The tarantula probably weighed about as much as my turtle had.

And then something magical happened. Holding her in my hand, I could literally feel a connection with this creature. No longer did I see her as a really big spider; now I saw her as a small animal. Of course she was both. “Animals” include not only mammals but also birds and reptiles, amphibians and insects, fish and spiders, and many more. But perhaps because the tarantula was furry, like a chipmunk, and big enough to handle, now I saw her and her spider kin in a new light. She was a unique individual, and in my hand, she was in my care. A wave of tenderness swept over me as I watched her walk, softly, slowly, and deliberately, across my skin.

[…]

The world, I realized, brimmed even fuller with life than I had suspected, rich with the souls of tiny creatures who may love their lives as much as we love ours.

Illustration by Rebecca Green from How to Be a Good Creature by Sy Montgomery.

Complement How to Be a Good Creature with Helen MacDonald on what a hawk taught her about love and loss and Pattyann Rogers’s splendid ode to tiny creatures, then revisit Rachel Carson’s lyrical and revolutionary 1937 masterpiece, which humans for the first time to explore this shared planet from the perspective of nonhuman creatures.


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Lazy, Dumb, Hyper, Scattered – Jessica McCabe & ADHD labels

“Bored”, “lazy”, “scattered” “hyper”; Are these fair or accurate labels? Is there anything we can do to help our brains or motivation? Jessica shares about her past struggles with these labels and how we can find what our brain likes so we don’t fight it’s natural impulses, rather work with them instead applying a quick and dismissive label. She dispels some myths about ADD/ADHD and reveals some truths that aren’t commonly known about it.  She also talks about her childhood and how negative events both in school and at home shaped her emotions, view of herself and her behavior.

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